Do you think that your friends with benefits is falling for you? Knowing the signs can help you know if you’re both feeling the same way or not.
You’re not supposed to think of a future together in a friends with benefits relationship.At least, that’s what we tell ourselves. Knowing the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you helps you know if your relationship is still casual, or heading towards tricky waters.
Being in afriends with benefitssetup can be complicated when feelings become involved. You’re only supposed to think about sex and fun.
NO dating or catching feelings—it is purely casual. Well, even though we all say this and try to follow these FWB rules, most of us end up breaking them.
If you’re starting to fall for your friend with benefits or are just wondering if they feel anything for you, it’s time to know the signs your friend with benefits is falling for you. [Read:What does being FWBs mean to a guy? Do guys actually get hooked?]
Some people aren’t cut out for an FWB relationship
Let’s be honest for a second here. It’s not easy to stay friends with someone you share a bed with. People say it’s easy, but you end up falling for the person and thinking about what it would be like to date them.
Sex is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone and the fact you’re doing it on casual grounds is really a risk. You can end up falling for one another if you’re not careful.
This is why there are people who never settle for a friends with benefits relationship their whole lives, while others are okay with it. [Read:Does being friends with benefits really work out?]
Frankly, it takes a lot of courage and willpower not to fall for someone you’re occasionally sleeping with.
Why is it important to know the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you?
If you know the signs, then you have absolute awareness if it isn’t just sex for them.
This is especially crucial if you’re starting to develop feelings for them and you want to know if they feel the same way. While this relationship starts completely casual, it can turn into a real relationship. [Read: The must-know secrets to breaking up with a FWB, end things and get over them ASAP]
On the contrary, if you and your friends with benefits aren’t on the same page, knowing the signs can give you everything you need to stop your relationship.
If one of you isn’t willing to have a real relationship with the other, you can choose to end your friends with benefits setup before things get complicated or it leads to heartbreak.
When a friends with benefits ends up falling for you
The thing is, we can’t control our emotions. No matter how much we want this kind of setup to go on forever, it’s going to end at some point.[Read:How to read the signs your casual relationship is getting serious]
Physical intimacy is one of the most intimate and vulnerable connections you can have with someone, which means someone will always end up falling for the other.
It could be you, or it could be them. It may not happen today, but it’s usually only a matter of time.
There’s no way to predict our emotions or even control them. So, at this point, you shouldn’t be shocked if they do end up having feelings for you.[Read:How to know if a girl likes you: 12 signs that won’t let you down]
The bigger question is, what are you going to do about this? Will you turn your friends with benefits relationship into a dating relationship, or will you end things for good?
Signs your friends with benefits is falling for you
This doesn’t happen in all friends with benefits relationships, but with some, there’s this point where you’re thinking maybe this casual hook-up can turn into something more. If you’re both falling for each other, why not take the relationship further?
By knowing the signs, you have the assurance to confess your feelings or suggest making your relationship a dating one instead of a casual one.[Read:25 friends with benefits rules to remember if you just want to stay friends]
If you’re thinking there’s more to the relationship than just casual sex, put the pieces of the puzzle together.
In this feature, we’ll be discussing the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you.
1. You feel it
You have this gut feeling that there are mutual feelings floating around, and this is easily one of the first signs your friends with benefits is falling for you. [Read:How to know if it’s true love? Splitting the casual from the serious]
If you have a strong feeling that they have feelings for you, then most of the time, your gut could be right.
This doesn’t mean they’re going to want something serious with you, but it does confirm that what you were feeling was right. They like you.
2. You’re all over each other
When you’re around them, you both can’t get enough of each other. There’s such a thing as boundaries in a friends with benefits relationship because otherwise, you wouldn’t stay casual for long. [Read:Rules to follow to keep a casual relationship casual]
However, if you’re all over each other to the point where you cross each other’s personal space, they might have feelings for you.
If there’sthatmuch chemistry, maybe you should take a closer look into it.
3. You both know about each other’s dating past
What’s an important rule of friends with benefits relationships? Not to talk about yourself too much. You don’t want to develop an emotional connection.[Read:How to make him want a relationship after being his FWB]
However, if you know one another’s dating past, exes, breakups, and more intimate details, then you might want to re-think their feelings for you.
If this was strictly a casual setup, you shouldn’t know those things.
Especially if you know the significant details of their dating past like how many people they dated and what lead to those breakups, it’s no longer a casual relationship. [Read:What is lust? The typical signs and the best ways to turn it into love]
4. You spend your free time together
This is one of the most obvious signs your friends with benefits is falling for you. If your relationship is so casual, then why are you spending time together outside the bedroom? It shouldn’t work that way.
Time is a very valuable thing, so if you’re using this to spend time with your friends with benefits, maybe the dynamics of your relationship have changed.
Maybe they’re starting to fall for you, and the same could go for you. [Read:How to get over a friend with benefits without catching feelings]
5. You havethosemoments
Oh, you know what we’re talking about. The moments where it’s quiet and you’re staring into each other’s eyes, both wanting to say something.
Whether it’s after sex or sometime during the day, you end up staring deeply at each other before you even realize what you’re doing. Those silences are filled with hidden emotions waiting to spill out.
6. You travel together
Friends with benefits don’t travel at all. No excuses. Even if the world was ending, there’s no way you should be traveling together on casual grounds. [Read:How traveling is a great test of compatibility]
If you’re traveling around the world and hooking up with each other, then you need to ask yourself if this isn’t a relationship. And if it’s not, why not?
7. You miss each other when apart
As another one of the obvious signs your friends with benefits is falling for you, there’s no way you should miss one another.
When you miss each other, it’s a reflection of the feelings you’re clearly suppressing! You really can’t miss someone without feeling anything for them – emotions don’t work that way. [Read:18 signs a guy is emotionally attached to you and is ready to commit]
8. Sex isn’t always on the menu
Okay, this is definitely a huge one! The entire basis of a friends with benefits relationship is sex. If you’re not having sex whenever you meet up, what the hell are you doing?
If you’re hanging out and not having sex, you have feelings for each other. Or you’re lonely. All the same, it’s almost always the first reason.
9. You have each other’s back
Emotional support? That’s not under the rules of any friends with benefits relationship! Friends with benefits is based on having sex with people you want to bang. Nothing more. [Read:12 signs he wants to be exclusive and committed to only you]
If you’re hanging out and supporting each other emotionally, this is one of the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you, especially when you’re doing favors and listening to each other’s rants.
10. You stopped sleeping with other people
We’ll say this one more time – you’re not exclusively dating with a friends with benefits relationship. If you stopped sleeping with other people, why don’t you just see each other for real this time? Why not make it into a relationship?
This is such an obvious sign that they clearly have feelings for you because otherwise, they’d still sleep with other people and the same goes for you. [Read:NSA relationship guide – 15 rules you have to follow]
11. You know their friends
We all know this isn’t casual if you meet friends. There’s literally no reason why you would bring your friends with benefits to any event where your friends or family would be.
This kind of situation is only present when you’re dating them, which you aren’t *unless you changed your mind?*.
12. You date other people, but it’s meh
Even if you’re dating other people, you’re not as invested or interested as you’re with one another. You dismiss the people you’re dating, and you eventually end up disinterested, even when nothing’s wrong with them. [Read:How to get over a friend with benefits without catching feelings]
When you’re on the date, you’re thinking about your special friend with benefits and what you could be doing together. That right there is a concrete sign!
13. They do small things for you
Again, friends with benefits never do favors for you unless it’s a sexual favor. If you come over and they have your favorite snacks stocked in the fridge or will let you pick out the movie – then you already know what we’re going to say.
This is not the behavior of someone who wants a casual relationship. It might be small and minor, but it’s still a big deal. [Read:Tips to make the “define your relationship” talk easy]
14. You’re jealous
Whoops, friends with benefits shouldn’t get jealous, ever! One of the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you is when they get jealous when you’re talking to another person or maybe an ex.
Or, it could also be the other way around – you could be jealous of someone they’re talking to.
15. They hint at taking it forward
There’s no getting more obvious than this. When you’re talking, they low-key suggest you’re great together. These small comments are hinting at something much bigger. [Read:Important rules to remember in a friends with benefits relationship]
They’re suggesting taking the relationship forward and trying dating!
16. They call whenever
Boundaries are something you should have in a normal friends with benefits setup. If they call you whenever they please and you happily answer their calls, they have feelings for you!
Maybe they’re just bored or they just want someone to talk to, but these aren’t things you do in a casual relationship. The fact that they called you first implies underlying emotions. [Read: Why do men hate talking on the phone?]
17. They put your needs first in sex
One of the concrete signs your friends with benefits is falling for you is when the sex becomes more intimate and real. It’s no longer about satisfying their needs above your own.
So maybe they’re asking if you’re comfortable or they let you finish first where they’ve never done that before. It could be because they’re starting to develop feelings for you! [Read:34 passionate signs you’re not having sex but making love to each other]
18. They’re more careful around you
It’s not necessarily walking on eggshells around you, but more of putting their best forward. They act the way anyone would around their crush *which is you*, and they’re more anxious and nervous than usual.
They’re also more concerned about pleasing you and making you happy in any way they can. [Read:Does he care about me? 15 subtle things that prove he really does]
19. They share personal details more
Even when you’re not asking, if they’re sharing personal details about their feelings, this isn’t a casual relationship any longer.
They want you to get to know them outside of sex so whether that’s talking about how their weekend went, their favorite movies, or something in their past, they don’t hesitate in letting you know.
Again, a friends with benefits relationship should be purely casual, so sharing personal details is another one of the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you. [Read: 19 Reasons why we’re afraid to open up to people and steps to overcome it]
20. They initiate a hangout outside the bedroom
Why else would they want to hang out with you when your current setup is completely fine? Because of their feelings for you, of course!
If they’re always subtly getting you to hang out after sex or over the weekend, start wondering about their intentions for you. Frankly, it’s no longer a behavior for a casual relationship. If you have feelings for them too, this is a good thing!
21. Something has changed
You don’t know exactly what’s changed, but you know something is going on. Unless your FWB has completely stopped talking to you, then they’re probably falling for you.[Read: Does he like me? 101 subtle signs and body language cues guys can’t hide]
And it makes sense. Why shouldn’t they fall for you? You’re sleeping together, developing some form of connection, and probably feeling comfortable together.
It’s not impossible for them to develop romantic feelings for you! If you want to determine the signs a FWB is catching feelings for you, then observe if something has changed recently in their behavior towards you.
Are they behaving a bit more like a partner and a bit less like a friend? [Read:How to tell if someone likes you without asking them]
22. They text you without reason
Usually, FWBs keep texting to a minimum. You should really only be texting to arrange a hangout. But, if they’re texting you to talk about your day or mundane, casual things, it’s a sign they’re into you.
The only reason they should text you is when you’re about to get together and have fun. If it’s anything other than that, start wondering why this might be. They could already be falling for you! [Read:How to tell if a girl likes you over text: 28 signs you can’t miss]
23. They try to see you more often
Unless they’re addicted to having sex with you, they won’t try to make time to see you more often. And if you hang out more and don’t have sex each time, well, then they like you. It’s as simple as that.
You only spend time with the person you like or are attracted so if they find silly excuses to spend time with you *such as running errands or even pretending to forget something at your place*, they’re into you![Read:11 delightful things I learned from no strings attached]
24. They get jealous when you mention other people
If they weren’t into you, they wouldn’t get jealous when you mention other people. You two are FWB, nothing more. So, what’s the problem? The problem lies in their feelings for you!
Jealousy is one of the obvious signs a FWB is catching feelings for you, so observe them carefully. Do they get jealous when you’re on your dating apps, or maybe they get frustrated when you’re talking to another guy or girl?
Maybe the reason behind their annoyance is because they’re clearly jealous and wish it was just them you’re talking to. [Read:]
25. The hangouts are becoming more date-like
There should be nothing romantic about your hangouts with your friend with benefits. If you want to determine how to tell if a friend with benefits is catching feelings for you, then observe how your hangouts are going these days.
Are they slowly transitioning from bedroom romps to date-like hangouts? Maybe you’re going out for dinner together, walking around the city, or hanging out with each other’s friends. This isn’t sounding like a FWB, but more like a romantic connection!
26. They cancel plans for you
Hello! If someone is canceling their plans to see you, that’s a huge sign they’re interested in you. [Read:15 signs your casual partner is just leading you on and taking you nowhere!]
Unless you blow their mind in bed *which we’re sure you do*, no one is going to cancel their plans to hang out with the FWB, literally, no one.They’re clearly canceling their plans for you because they’d prefer to be around you instead. *Major crush alert!*
27. They tell you they miss you
It’s one thing when they talk about a specific sexual act they miss. But if they’re telling you they miss you, well, that’s much different. You only miss someone you like and adore, which is exactly the case for you.
The fact they miss you isn’t sexual as much as it is romantic! [Read:How to know if someone misses you: 17 signs they think of you often]
28. The kisses are different
When you used to kiss, it was more of a warm-up to sex. But now, kisses have changed. They’re passionate, intimate, and emotional.
You probably think – how can you tell someone’s feelings through a kiss? Trust us, you can definitely tell. [Read:The 15 types of kisses and the meaning behind their smooch]
If their kisses used to be fast and urgent and they’ve transitioned into slow and sensual, that’s how to tell if a friend with benefits is catching feelings for you.
Their feelings are no longer empty but full of lingering emotions they’re trying to express without words. [Read:How to tell if a kiss means something way more – 16 clues to look for when they kiss you]
29. Your conversations are deeper
Deep conversations? Personal topics? These are things you do on a date, not in a FWB relationship! They ask personal questions and talk about feelings.
They’re doing this because they want to create an emotional connection with you because they like you. If you’re looking for the signs a FWB is catching feelings for you, deep conversations are definitely one of them! [Read:Rules to follow to keep a casual relationship casual]
30. Try to hold your hands in public
When you are walking around the city, they’re working in some PDA. Now, we all know this is a big no-no when it comes to FWB relationships. But if they like you, they want other people to see you are together.
It doesn’t get any more obvious than this. *and if you’re still doubting, then you’re clearly just in denial!* [Read:The signs of attachment in a friends with benefits situation]
31. They put their best foot forward around you
Whether it’s being more careful around you, showing off their talents and abilities, or just being their best selves, they’re clearly trying to get your attention and impress you.
If you’re wondering how to tell if a FWB is catching feelings for you, this is a clear one. If you like someone, it’s normal to attempt in capturing their attention by putting your best foot forward *and they’re probably doing the same thing to you!*
32. They initiate relationship conversations more often
it’s not normal to talk more about your relationships and even your personal life with a FWB. Since your setup is strictly casual and sexual, there’s no need to mix fun with your personal life. [Read:The best deep conversation starters to impress anyone, anytime!]
So if you notice them initiating conversations about your romantic life, such as asking about your past relationships and what you like in a partner, it’s time to wonder why this is the case. These types of conversations are one of the signs your FWB is catching feelings for you.
33. They show romantic gestures
Handholding, simple gifts, getting you coffee, cuddling, or even giving you a blanket when you’re cold are indicators that they’re into you! It couldn’t get any more obvious than this.
A FWB is supposed to be nothing more than casual so if they’re romantic towards you, they’re showing how they’re falling for you.[Read:The 30 sweetest romantic gestures for everyday life]
So, what are the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you?
More than their words, watch closely for their body language and behavior. If your friends with benefits is starting to care more about your well-being or getting personal with you, they might be falling for you! The question is, do you feel the same way?
[Read:What do friends with benefits mean to a guy? Do they ever get hooked?]
Are you seeing the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you? If the answer is yes, it’s time to decide whether you’re willing to take the relationship a step forward.
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